Why some people believe that they live in this Earth just to be suffered? Why do they blame God if certain things are not turned out what they expect to be? I have been thinking about this since reading a few blogs relating how miserable their lives are. After reading, analyzing and evaluating based on what they had posted, I believe that the cause of this kind of beliefs or thinking is due to resist the unexpected and unpleasant event.
When something bad happen to them or the outcome is as they expected, they resist it. They will become defensive and try to resist the outcome. The problem is it already happened. How can you resist or not accepting it when it already happen? In Islam, there is Rukun Iman. In this Rukun Iman, there is this believe in Qada dan qadar. This is what it said about Qada and Qadar in Malay language. (I am tired of translating or summarize it in English. Remind me of GHAZLY dreadful translation class.)
Percaya kepada qada dan qadar adalah mempercayai bahawa segala yang berlaku adalah ketentuan Allah semata-mata.
Sebagai seorang Islam wajiblah kita sedar bahawa kita adalah makluk yang lemah, bahawa Allah itulah yang maha Perkasa dan maha Berkuasa dan segala sesuatu adalah berlaku dengan ketetapanNya sahaja. Lantaran itu kita wajib beriman kepada takdir, bahawa segala sesuatu telah ditentukan oleh Allah.
Walaupun begitu kita masih boleh berusaha dan berdoa kerana dengan limpah rahmatnya, Allah mampu mengubah takdir kita. When you resist something, you create certain emotion of dissatisfaction, you feel weak and despair. In other word, you create pain inside yourself. This pain if you take it to seriously will shaped your perception about the world and life. Once the pain has taken you over, you want more pain. You become a victim or a perpetrator. You want to inflict pain or you want to suffer pain or both. There isn’t really much difference between the two. You are not conscious of this, of course and will vehemently claim that you do not want pain. But look closely and you will find that your thinking and behavior are designed to keep pain going, for yourself and others.
I believe, to avoid from becoming like this, is to accept whatever happen. You have no control of your life and can’t control your fate. It is up to God to determine the course of your life. What these people should do right now is accept whatever unpleasant or unexpected predicament that they face, stop clinging the past and enjoy the process of living. Because, when you die and still the same mindset and behavior, you will realize how ignorant you are and you feel regret for not accepting and enjoying life.
